How To Be A Mistress

The title will already make some people furious, not because the reasoning behind it is flawed, but they won’t read far enough to understand it. The loudest outrage often comes from those least familiar with the realities of advanced power… Read More »Don’t Negotiate with Beginners

Negotiation Ensures Agreement, Not Passion One of the least understood truths about Femdom is that negotiation, while essential for safety, is also a form of control. When a submissive says to a Domina, “I will only submit if you meet… Read More »The Price of Negotiation: How Contracts Steal Passion

This is going to contradict what BDSM says about Femdom: Femdom is not a role reversal of male domination; it is a subversion of it. This distinction cannot be overstated. Most BDSM practitioners would say Femdom is role reversal… and… Read More »Femdom is Subversion, Not Reversal

A recurring misconception among submissives entering Femdom—particularly Absolute Femdom—is the assumption that if their preferences align with a Domina’s stated interests, those desires will be enacted with them. They see the fetish list, the photos, the tags, and think: “Perfect… Read More »Submissive Preferences and Entitlement

A lot of people are chronically confused about what Domination is. Without thinking, they simply repeat what they’ve heard others say, without noticing that those people are themselves repeating what they have heard, also without thinking. This is the ouroboros… Read More »Two-Step Authentication for Femdom Dynamics

The figure of the Dominant Woman, as imagined by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (1870), was not discovered or encountered, but constructed. Sacher-Masoch is known to be the first “out of the closet” masochist, and he had quite a controversial life, especially… Read More »Plagiarising Femdom

This is an opinion piece, which means I am making judgments from a lifetime of experience being a Dominant woman, my connections with over two thousand men who have submitted to me over the years, and interactions with hundreds of… Read More »The Battle of Modern Men to Surrender

One of the most common misinterpretations of Absolute Femdom is that it “ignores” the submissive’s desires. This is not true. Absolute Femdom values male desire deeply, just not in the way most men are taught to expect. It does not… Read More »Male Desire as Submission, Not Control

Male Desire in a Time of Gender Tension We are living through a cultural moment where gender dynamics are being publicly reexamined and renegotiated. In the wake of #MeToo, rising feminist awareness, and broader critiques of patriarchy, many men—particularly those… Read More »The Conflict of Male-Centric Desire in Femdom