I find with men who are inexperienced at approaching and having a Mistress, they think they can treat ‘loose women’ as cheap and low quality. Boy, do they get a rude shock when they stumble across a real Mistress.
I must admit, I love destroying men who think ‘loose women’ are low value and easy.
Inexperienced, arrogant and naïve men seem to believe that women who are sex positive and who want to have many sexual encounters with different partners are not ‘high value women’. Society teaches men (especially religion, the dating scene and the good girl club) that women who ‘put out’ are worthless, cheap and dirty. These institutions all want men (and women) to fear women who enjoy sex and who like many partners. Thus, the spread of the propaganda against them. Unfortunately, (perhaps, by design) this creates entitled bad behaviour in some men towards liberal women. Because of this, a lot of men might be loving, caring and thoughtful husbands, but then they treat promiscuous women badly, objectifying them, even brutally. This attitude, of course, bites them in the ass when they find themselves in a sexless marriage and then are on the search to have a liaison with a ‘loose woman’. They think they can hide their perceptions and attitude, (which tend to be ingrained in their language, interactions and energy), so it is often clear how they feel about the very women they are begging to have sex with.
Women are exceptionally perceptive. They have a sixth sense on the feeling of men towards them, developed by necessity from a very young age. And a lot of inexperienced and arrogant men are usually too clumsy and ignorant to be able to hide their true attitudes. It comes out in their energy and interactions. They are focused on sex, pushing to meet quickly, using coercion, usually stating they don’t want any ‘drama’ and only ‘good vibes’. Their urgency and forceful energy would make any woman withdraw, but a Mistress like me loves to take the opportunity to first nurture and then put them in their place.
Why would I want to ‘reinforce’ their bad behaviour and then pull the rug out from under them? So they stay as they are, and to perhaps create them into something even more undesirable. I do this because I want every other promiscuous women, especially those less experienced, to see these men coming a mile away.
I see in the dating world the push for a woman to curve a man’s habits and attitudes into what she wants. This is, of course, the opposite of what I would encourage any woman to do. You can’t change a leopard’s spots. You can teach them to hide them, but underneath, they will always have spots. So, rather than finding a man that doesn’t treat women with respect from the beginning, and having to train him to respect you, choose a man who innately respects all women. This is what I do. If a man does not respect me, a Mistress who has lots of sex, I very quickly make it known how undesirable he is and that no way in hell would I ever want to be with him.
Often men are quite shocked when I reject them, especially if they are an Adonis who is used to women drooling over their appearance and body. They ask me why, and I tell them, ‘I’m not interested. You can’t give me what I want.’ I don’t tell them how to change as I don’t want any other woman being fooled by them. (I am well aware of the irony of writing this post.)
A Mistress is exceptionally choosy with who she gets involved with. I only accept the best of men. They must have a very healthy and respectful attitude towards women. Not just the good girl, but ALL women. Men must value what I’m offering, and value me as a person, before I will even consider them. If they are not good enough lovers or romancers, I don’t take them on. They must be advanced in their sexual ability and know how to collaborate in creating a passionate and fullfiling affair. My standards are exceptionally high.
What people don’t realise is a self-consensual Mistress is a high value woman. She has self-confidence and is independent. She respects herself, has a strong moral code according to her own conscience, and is active in building and maintaining healthy relationships. And, a Mistress is sexually vibrant and confident; traits of a high value woman, which society likes to ignore, hide and vilify.
