You know those profiles you stumble upon on dating apps that say something like, ‘good vibes only’ and ‘no drama’…? What they mean to say is:
If we’ve planned a date meet for a few days, and you’ve moved things around so we can meet, and then at the last minute I cancel… I don’t want you to complain. In fact, I don’t want you to say anything but, ‘It’s ok, it doesn’t matter, I’ll enjoy seeing you next time.’ Because my needs are more important that yours, and my time is more important too.
But as soon as you happen to mention that you’re maybe a little bit unhappy to be cancelled on, last minute, for the third time in a row, they tell you they don’t want any ‘drama’.
It’s not that the no-drama men want no drama, they want no drama when they do something wrong or selfish or inappropriate or inconsiderate…
The no-drama men want a free pass on their bad behaviour, making you to blame if you say anything that dampens their mood or makes them feel guilty. But, thankfully, they (unwittingly) prewarn you of this by saying ‘no drama’ in their profiles. They are clearly telling you what they are going to do to you when they are behaving badly. So, my advice:
Say no to no-drama men.
