Today (in between me replying to commenters…haha!) I had a training session with a brand-new submissive. We first met for coffee two weeks ago. What was supposed to be an hour-long chat turned into five hours without either of us… Read More »Absolute Training a New Submissive
Why Egalitarian Ethics Cannot Explain Hierarchical Femdom Most people who enter BDSM carrying the assumptions of the vanilla world. And in the vanilla world, at least in the West, relationships are now expected to be egalitarian. Feminism achieved that expectation.… Read More »The Hidden Taboo of Power Dynamics
Too many submissives approach Domina as if this were a game of kink-matching: you like pegging, I like pegging, let’s play. But authentic Femdom is not built on kink inventories. It is built on the alignment of structure, investment, and… Read More »No Kink Matching: Crucial Things to Consider Before Getting Involved with a Domina
This is written for men who feminise because they love women and femininity, and who want to pass as authentically female. NOT for kink, or for those who do it only as a form of humiliation, or because they believe… Read More »Feminisation – Passing Authentically
Submissives often get it stuck in their heads that submission is about giving and serving. And yes—it is. But not always in the way they think. Too much giving, or misplaced serving, can become a burden for the Domina. For… Read More »The Gift of Giving Too Much Is a Burden
Which one am I talking about? The word “Femdom” is a slippery creature. It dresses itself in different costumes depending on the context, and then pretends it’s always been wearing the same one. No wonder half the internet is confused,… Read More »Femdom, Femdom or Femdom?
This is for beginners, but I’m sure others can appreciate. I have been focusing on advanced Dynamics lately, but I thought to balance it out with some fundamentals for people new to the scene (and I think it’s needed…haha!) For… Read More »Submissives, Get Out of the Transactional Play Mindset
While I am first and foremost a Lifestyle Femdom in my private life, I’ve decided it’s time to share more of what I know. After years of mentoring and advising locally, I now offer online mentorship, coaching, (and soon digital… Read More »Mentorship: Sharing My Femdom Knowledge Publicly
Note: This post is single-centric, not primarily for romantic couples. I’m Dynamic-first because I don’t have monogamous life-partner relationships with subs. However, most couples, of course, put their romantic relationship first before their Dynamic. This means it’s typical for them… Read More »Dynamic Compatibility is Non-Negotiable
One of the more persistent pop-psychology tropes of our time is the mantra that “all relationships are transactional.” It has spread in the manosphere, is promoted by dating coaches, creeps into sex therapy discussions, and repeats endlessly in self-help content.… Read More »Femdom and the Gift Economy