One of the more persistent pop-psychology tropes of our time is the mantra that “all relationships are transactional.” It has spread in the manosphere, is promoted by dating coaches, creeps into sex therapy discussions, and repeats endlessly in self-help content.… Read More »Femdom and the Gift Economy
When beginners first approach Femdom, they often hear the word negotiation and assume it means bargaining: I give you this, you give me that. That is not what negotiation means in Femdom. At least not when done properly. Negotiation in… Read More »Negotiation Basics in Femdom: Consent, Limits, Boundaries, and Preferences
One of the biggest dividers in Femdom is between transactional and devotional submission. To a beginner, they may look similar. Both men serve, both obey, both offer themselves. But from the Domina’s perspective, the difference is clear. Transactional Submissives A… Read More »Transactional vs. Devotional Submissives
When a Domina meets a new submissive, she can usually tell within a few minutes whether he is “pre-made” or ready to be “created.” Pre-Made Submissives A pre-made submissive comes ready-packaged. He has labels, fetishes, and a list of what… Read More »Pre-Made vs. Created Submissives
When men begin exploring Femdom, one of the first questions they often ask themselves is: Am I really submissive, or am I just choosing this? The answer is not as simple as many think. Submission can be felt as an… Read More »Born submissive vs. Choice submissive
Not all submissives serve in the same way. Submission is not one-size-fits-all. Some men thrive on being of service. Others thrive on being in a relationship. Both are valid, but the difference between them matters deeply—especially to a Domina. Service… Read More »Service Submissives vs. Relational Submissives
One of the most common sources of confusion in Femdom is the difference between a fetishist and a submissive. Many beginners assume they are the same. After all, both want a woman to do things to them, right? But the… Read More »Fetishists vs. Submissives – What Are You?
Many men feel the pull toward submission but don’t know if they are truly ready to serve a Domina. Desire alone is not enough. A Femdom submissive is not measured by how much he wants to submit, but by how… Read More »Are Ready to Submit to a Domina?
Many people assume that a submissive is just a submissive—that anyone who kneels or yields to another is the same. But in Femdom, the submissive has a different character. A Femdom submissive is not simply a person who follows orders.… Read More »What Is a Femdom submissive?
When people first step into the world of Female Domination, most will begin with what I call Relative Femdom. It is the most common entry point because it feels similar to vanilla egalitarian structures: negotiated, collaborative, and shaped around both… Read More »Relative Femdom: Training for Domination