Why Vanilla Negotiation Doesn’t Translate Well to Femdom Power Structures In the vanilla world, negotiation is a mutual dialogue intended to create balance for all parties involved. It is typically a process of collaborative compromise, where the parties bring their preferences,… Read More »Negotiation Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means
In a previous post, I shared my thoughts on what Female Domination is, based my personal experience, observations of other Domina, and academic study on Femdom literature. In essence, Femdom is a female-led, asymmetrical, power-based dynamic. The key defining element… Read More »Femdoms Deprogramming from Male-Centric Domination
One of the most persistent misunderstandings within D/s—particularly within Femdom—is the question of whether a Domina can truly dominate if the submissive gives consent. At surface level, this question appears logical. If a person consents to domination, chooses their limits,… Read More »Does Consent Mean You Are Dominating or Just Roleplaying?
Dedicating my life to Femdom, I have studied domination in its most specific context—within D/s dynamics—and even more precisely, within female-led power structures. My passion for Femdom has driven me to examine it not just as a kink or identity,… Read More »Why Most Femdom Isn’t Actually Femdom
There are a lot of things men have projected onto Femdom—sissification being one of them. To be clear: sissification is not the same as feminisation. They are often confused, but fundamentally different. Feminisation is about crossdressing or presenting as a… Read More »Sissification Is Not What You Think It Is
One of the more confronting aspects of my academic work is that I’m often developing ideas that have little to no precedent in public discourse. In my field, there are virtually no published studies or frameworks that cover what I’m… Read More »Crazy, Evil, or a Whore – Ladies, Pick Your Brand
Sensory Truths, Erotic Intelligence, and the Limits of Performance Truth is expressed through the body, and in Femdom it’s no different. There are things the body knows before the mind catches up. The tightening in the gut when someone takes… Read More »Femdom Embodiement
Power, Intimacy, and the Femdomsexual Heart If you’ve ever tried to explain to someone that your deepest experience of intimacy involves female-led hierarchy, control, or desire you’ll know the confusion it often provokes. The reality is, love, desire, and power… Read More »A Different Kind of Love
Why the Real Thing Feels Different There comes a point in most people’s exploration where they begin to notice the split between what they’ve fantasised about and what they actually want. The uncomfortable question is: how much of what you… Read More »Femdom vs. Fantasy
Learning to Recognise What We’ve Always Felt When we talk about Female Power, most people assume we mean dominance. Control. Force. But for those of us drawn to Femdom — either as Dominant women or those who respond to them… Read More »The Orientation to Female Power