Everything you need to know to be Your kind of Mistress. This category guides you through authority, mindset, style, and structure. Drawn from real-life practice and feminist philosophy. Start with the basics or use as a refresher to sharpen your Femdom. Education by RacyWilde💋
Why Egalitarian Ethics Cannot Explain Hierarchical Femdom Most people who enter BDSM carrying the assumptions of the vanilla world. And in the vanilla world, at least in the West, relationships are now expected to be egalitarian. Feminism achieved that expectation.… Read More »The Hidden Taboo of Power Dynamics
Submissives often get it stuck in their heads that submission is about giving and serving. And yes—it is. But not always in the way they think. Too much giving, or misplaced serving, can become a burden for the Domina. For… Read More »The Gift of Giving Too Much Is a Burden
Which one am I talking about? The word “Femdom” is a slippery creature. It dresses itself in different costumes depending on the context, and then pretends it’s always been wearing the same one. No wonder half the internet is confused,… Read More »Femdom, Femdom or Femdom?
While I am first and foremost a Lifestyle Femdom in my private life, I’ve decided it’s time to share more of what I know. After years of mentoring and advising locally, I now offer online mentorship, coaching, (and soon digital… Read More »Mentorship: Sharing My Femdom Knowledge Publicly
Note: This post is single-centric, not primarily for romantic couples. I’m Dynamic-first because I don’t have monogamous life-partner relationships with subs. However, most couples, of course, put their romantic relationship first before their Dynamic. This means it’s typical for them… Read More »Dynamic Compatibility is Non-Negotiable
One of the more persistent pop-psychology tropes of our time is the mantra that “all relationships are transactional.” It has spread in the manosphere, is promoted by dating coaches, creeps into sex therapy discussions, and repeats endlessly in self-help content.… Read More »Femdom and the Gift Economy
When beginners first approach Femdom, they often hear the word negotiation and assume it means bargaining: I give you this, you give me that. That is not what negotiation means in Femdom. At least not when done properly. Negotiation in… Read More »Negotiation Basics in Femdom: Consent, Limits, Boundaries, and Preferences
Many people assume that a submissive is just a submissive—that anyone who kneels or yields to another is the same. But in Femdom, the submissive has a different character. A Femdom submissive is not simply a person who follows orders.… Read More »What Is a Femdom submissive?
When people first step into the world of Female Domination, most will begin with what I call Relative Femdom. It is the most common entry point because it feels similar to vanilla egalitarian structures: negotiated, collaborative, and shaped around both… Read More »Relative Femdom: Training for Domination
For many beginners, the first exposure to Femdom comes through professional Dommes, usually via porn—clips, ads, or online profiles offering paid sessions. This is understandable. Professional domination is the most visible form of Female Domination on the internet, but this… Read More »Femdom vs. ProDomme: Why They’re Not the Same