Everything you need to know to be Your kind of Mistress. This category guides you through authority, mindset, style, and structure. Drawn from real-life practice and feminist philosophy. Start with the basics or use as a refresher to sharpen your Femdom. Education by RacyWilde💋
At the most basic level, Femdom is not defined by activities, toys, or even rituals. It is defined by who the dynamic centres on. And this is what many beginners misunderstand, especially if they have come from porn. They assume… Read More »Why Female Desire Defines Femdom
One of the first mistakes beginners make is assuming that Female Domination is simply the mirror image of Male Domination. If men dominate by being forceful, strict, and rule-oriented, then women must do the same, only in high heels, right?… Read More »Male vs. Female Domination: Why Femdom Is Not Maledom in Reverse
The title will already make some people furious, not because the reasoning behind it is flawed, but they won’t read far enough to understand it. The loudest outrage often comes from those least familiar with the realities of advanced power… Read More »Don’t Negotiate with Beginners
This is going to contradict what BDSM says about Femdom: Femdom is not a role reversal of male domination; it is a subversion of it. This distinction cannot be overstated. Most BDSM practitioners would say Femdom is role reversal… and… Read More »Femdom is Subversion, Not Reversal
A recurring misconception among submissives entering Femdom—particularly Absolute Femdom—is the assumption that if their preferences align with a Domina’s stated interests, those desires will be enacted with them. They see the fetish list, the photos, the tags, and think: “Perfect… Read More »Submissive Preferences and Entitlement
A lot of people are chronically confused about what Domination is. Without thinking, they simply repeat what they’ve heard others say, without noticing that those people are themselves repeating what they have heard, also without thinking. This is the ouroboros… Read More »Two-Step Authentication for Femdom Dynamics
The figure of the Dominant Woman, as imagined by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (1870), was not discovered or encountered, but constructed. Sacher-Masoch is known to be the first “out of the closet” masochist, and he had quite a controversial life, especially… Read More »Plagiarising Femdom
One of the most common misinterpretations of Absolute Femdom is that it “ignores” the submissive’s desires. This is not true. Absolute Femdom values male desire deeply, just not in the way most men are taught to expect. It does not… Read More »Male Desire as Submission, Not Control
Male Desire in a Time of Gender Tension We are living through a cultural moment where gender dynamics are being publicly reexamined and renegotiated. In the wake of #MeToo, rising feminist awareness, and broader critiques of patriarchy, many men—particularly those… Read More »The Conflict of Male-Centric Desire in Femdom
In Absolute Femdom, the Domina is not a service provider. She is not offering a menu of experiences for the submissive to purchase with consent. She is not there to perform dominance as a commodity. And so, negotiation must be… Read More »Keeping the Absolute Domina’s Authority in Negotiation