Submission is a discipline, and real training starts with you. This category gives submissives the mindset, etiquette, and skills to serve with authenticity and purpose. Learn to present yourself, understand dynamics, and avoid common mistakes. Training for submission by RacyWilde💋
Today (in between me replying to commenters…haha!) I had a training session with a brand-new submissive. We first met for coffee two weeks ago. What was supposed to be an hour-long chat turned into five hours without either of us… Read More »Absolute Training a New Submissive
Too many submissives approach Domina as if this were a game of kink-matching: you like pegging, I like pegging, let’s play. But authentic Femdom is not built on kink inventories. It is built on the alignment of structure, investment, and… Read More »No Kink Matching: Crucial Things to Consider Before Getting Involved with a Domina
This is written for men who feminise because they love women and femininity, and who want to pass as authentically female. NOT for kink, or for those who do it only as a form of humiliation, or because they believe… Read More »Feminisation – Passing Authentically
Submissives often get it stuck in their heads that submission is about giving and serving. And yes—it is. But not always in the way they think. Too much giving, or misplaced serving, can become a burden for the Domina. For… Read More »The Gift of Giving Too Much Is a Burden
Which one am I talking about? The word “Femdom” is a slippery creature. It dresses itself in different costumes depending on the context, and then pretends it’s always been wearing the same one. No wonder half the internet is confused,… Read More »Femdom, Femdom or Femdom?
This is for beginners, but I’m sure others can appreciate. I have been focusing on advanced Dynamics lately, but I thought to balance it out with some fundamentals for people new to the scene (and I think it’s needed…haha!) For… Read More »Submissives, Get Out of the Transactional Play Mindset
While I am first and foremost a Lifestyle Femdom in my private life, I’ve decided it’s time to share more of what I know. After years of mentoring and advising locally, I now offer online mentorship, coaching, (and soon digital… Read More »Mentorship: Sharing My Femdom Knowledge Publicly
When beginners first approach Femdom, they often hear the word negotiation and assume it means bargaining: I give you this, you give me that. That is not what negotiation means in Femdom. At least not when done properly. Negotiation in… Read More »Negotiation Basics in Femdom: Consent, Limits, Boundaries, and Preferences
One of the biggest dividers in Femdom is between transactional and devotional submission. To a beginner, they may look similar. Both men serve, both obey, both offer themselves. But from the Domina’s perspective, the difference is clear. Transactional Submissives A… Read More »Transactional vs. Devotional Submissives
When a Domina meets a new submissive, she can usually tell within a few minutes whether he is “pre-made” or ready to be “created.” Pre-Made Submissives A pre-made submissive comes ready-packaged. He has labels, fetishes, and a list of what… Read More »Pre-Made vs. Created Submissives